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(no subject) [Sep. 11th, 2030|08:53 pm]

This is a Friends Only Journal. I don't usually add people unless I know who they are; that means I know you already from from Real Life, a message board or comm, etc. If for some reason you would like to add me, go ahead. If you want me to add you back, you need to comment and introduce yourself, let me know where you found me, etc.; most of the time I won't add you back unless you do so.

Also, I don't know why any of you would ever be interested enough/angry enough/whatever to do it, but if for any reason my Friends Only posts ever end up posted outside of my journal without my prior knowledge and consent, I can in fact figure out which of the people who have access to it have posted the information.
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(no subject) [Sep. 11th, 2020|08:14 pm]
If you're someone who is/has been active in the Criminal Minds fandom or in Bandom (that's what I get for letting my MCR-love take me into Fall Out Boy and thus all the bands Pete Wentz uses as his personal harem) I might just randomly friend you. So if you've never "seen" or "met" me before and all of a sudden I show up, that's probably why. I try to let people know when I do, introduce myself and all, but I'm finding it difficult to stay online for more than a few minutes at a time.

EDIT: And also, it'd be awesome if you could reply and let me know if you absolutely can't deal with even a mention of incest (both within fanfic and outside of it). I understand and support others' right to not read whatever they can't deal with, but I also support my right to talk about my belief that, in certain circumstances, I don't believe it to be harmful.

And while I refuse to stop talking about it, I know that the very idea distresses some people, therefore I have a filter so that any mention should go only to those who either don't care or have similar views to mine.

I don't expect you to read my journal at all, but I'd prefer not to cause anyone distress if they randomly decide to read one of my journal entries. Please just let me know if it's something you don't even want to hear about so I can put your lj in the right filter.
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Put your name where your mouth is... [Sep. 30th, 2009|08:32 pm]
Petition in favor of Roman Polanski's extradition and sentencing: http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/art-does-not-excuse-rape-polanski-must-face-justice

Stolen from [info - personal] copperbadge

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Attention white folks! [Sep. 26th, 2009|04:11 pm]
POC do still have to negotiate the world quite a bit differently than you do.

This includes the job market; figuring out which jobs to apply for, whether we should stay in a job, and figuring out how to best gain greater qualifications for a given job track are still all impacted by the fact that we aren't white.

And when we're living in depressed areas, and have little access to good, consistent public transportation we can actually afford, and we're stuck in jobs whose hours fluctuate drastically per week (because we can't get what few higher-paying jobs are available, and we're competing with hundreds of people for basic, low-paying and/or part-time jobs), it's much harder to ensure our bills are paid on time, especially when a great deal of our debt/living expenses are medical bills that we can't actually negotiate down, find cheaper drugs or treatment options for, get samples of, or go without. Many POC have tried to get access to some of the free samples you keep saying we should try, and are refused them, because our doctors, even ones we've had for years and know the results of the drug tests our jobs require of us, still think we're all addicts and drug dealers.


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Okay... [Jun. 9th, 2009|07:15 pm]
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For those of you who don't know, I am one of those people who copy fics into a Word doc so I can read them at my leisure without worrying I'll forget where they are online (also because sometimes there's an amazing writer who's a shithead and posts in fucking light gray and/or unreasonably-sized font because they want to fuck over our vision as much as possible ::glares::). I will be doing this for Bandom Big Bang, copying each fic as it's posted (possibly the art too, I don't know atm), and saving the file on my computer.

If any of you, for whatever reason (illness, school, lack of internet access, etc.) would like me to send you a copy of the final doc, with all of the BBB entries, just comment here. I will screen (or at least try to screen) all comments, and will try to go and re-enable anonymous posting here at my Dreamwidth account, so that people on LJ who don't like OpenID/find it confusing/whatever can comment here too (although please identify yourself so I know you aren't some creep). No, I will not enable comments at my LJ; I need to be able to find your emails all in one place.

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Attention please! [May. 15th, 2009|12:41 am]
If you have changed your lj username, or added me here with a new journal or are just plain new or something, you need to tell me! There's a few new people on my Friends Of list that I don't recognize, but I could swear I recognize the contents of some of your posts. This is driving me crazy! ::tears at hair::
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Guess what? I'm doing a meme! And you're participating! ::glares:: [May. 6th, 2009|11:07 am]
It's the People/Things There Should Be More Icons Of meme!

You can answer at my LJ or my DW.
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(no subject) [May. 2nd, 2009|11:58 am]
Hey all. If you've moved to or are even just squatting at DW, and you've changed your username, reintroduce yourself here. It'll take two seconds. I'm rian_aphasia at DW, rilee16 at LJ.

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Fall Out Boy! Kitten-Style! [Apr. 23rd, 2009|09:42 pm]
I was in the pet shop today and there were four kittens in one huge kitten cage and I immediately went "FOB!Kittens!".

Two of them were asleep in the top of the large cat cage. They were Pete and Patrick kittens; one was a light orangey-marmalade color, kind of a light creamsicle if you remember what those are, and it was curled up and mewing pitifully and indignantly. The other was a creamy color with the gray-blue ears and tail, and it was completely glommed onto the Patrick!kitten; it was totally conked out on top of the Patrick!kitten's back, legs wrapped around it, tinypaws digging in and underneath the other cat's body and into its softsoftbelly, face burrowed into its back. The Patrick!kitten tried to move, and the Pete!kitten just moved with it, would not let go, even though it was sleeping so deeply it didn't wake up when I stroked its ears (and yes, I checked; the Pete!kitten was indeed alive).

And there were two other kittens on the lower part of the cage, chirping at each other, same colors as the other two. The cream and gray-blue one was super-friendly, but acted really funny. When I walked over it was batting at the crinkly little toy balls that are scented/flavored with catnip or whatever that the pet shop people had put in there. I swear to you, Joe!kitten walked like it was fucked up, kind of zig-zagging around in order to reach its destination (me). Once I started petting it it got this look of bliss on its little face and kept following me and insisting on pets as I moved around trying to see the Andy!kitten.

Andy!kitten was a darker marmalade than the Patrick!kitten (teehee, firecrotch!kittens). It was a bit standoffish, though curious and alert, and warmed up to me slightly as I stood there and didn't make any sudden moves. After Joe!kitten co-opted me for pets, Andy!kitten decided to amuse itself. It sat in the litterbox, then stood up still in the litterbox and chased its tail for a minute, then proceeded to go and sniff at the crinkly little toy balls that Joe!kitten had been playing with, very suspiciously, as if they'd bite its tinytinynose off.
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Dreamwidth moves... [Apr. 14th, 2009|01:08 pm]
I know several of the people on my friends list are planning to move, or have already moved their journals over to Dreamwidth. I'm not going to put down a list of links giving more information on DW, because there are plenty of them out there that have already been done, better than I could have done them. I'd like to focus on the actual communication of the move, chiefly, the changing of usernames and the way in which people are choosing to announce (or hide) their moves.

On Username ChangesCollapse )

On Announcements Of Our DW Move StatusCollapse )

What I Am Going To DoCollapse )
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(no subject) [Apr. 12th, 2009|10:45 pm]
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(no subject) [Mar. 29th, 2009|09:23 pm]
I think it's really gross when authors (especially supposedly feminist-identifying, pro-choice, female authors) write mpreg, and have their pregnant male character justify staying pregnant with the whole "I'm not killing my baby" spiel instead of just saying "I'm pregnant. My choice. I want to have a kid. End of story."

Guess what? No person or character should feel the need to justify not having an abortion. No person or character should have to justify having an abortion. Plenty of the supposedly "pro-life" douchebags are more than okay with the death penalty, with killing animals in order to consume meat and wear their skins, with exterminating "nuisance" animals, with having their pets spayed and neutered (oftentimes when the pet is actually already pregnant, which results in, guess what? A forced abortion!). The only people who should even be allowed to ask questions surrounding that decision are the people who will help to carry out the logistics and help the "parent" care for his/her health and have a genuine need to know the answers to "How will this decision affect your health?" "What are your plans for procedures, aftercare, returning to work, counseling if something unexpected or traumatic happens before/during/after?" "How will you deal with this financially and will you be needing any help in that area?" The answers to these questions are only the business of someone who asks them to ensure the person having to make the decision has the support they need, who asks them to be a better and more loving friend, partner, family member.

But for some reason they feel the need to utilize those assholes' misogynist tripe in order to make it "okay" for a male character to cross sex and gender lines by being the carrying parent? Fuck them. And fuck you if you're okay with that.
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(no subject) [Mar. 16th, 2009|07:15 pm]
Okay, maybe I'm just missing some obvious piece of information that I should have encountered ages ago, but from everything I've read and had discussions on, Brandon Teena/Teena Brandon had never actually explicitly identified hirself as either a straight transman or a butch lesbian. All of the articles etc. I've read seem to take one or the other identity for granted, depending on the identification of the writer him/her/hir self and the community they feel the most pull towards.

So what's up? Do any of you know if there was an actual, definitive statement by Brandon Teena/Teena Brandon hirself before hir murder?

I mean, either way it doesn't really matter to me (as in change my opinions positively or negatively of the person in question), except that it does in that essentially placing an identity upon a person who may not have held that identity and will never be able to correct any of us is, I believe, wrong, and kind of disgusting if we're using it to further our own ends.
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(no subject) [Mar. 15th, 2009|04:37 pm]
Outside of the cost of living, the only thing I really disliked when I lived in Santa Cruz was the fact that there were certain areas where I would walk down the street and get this voice in the back of my head, "There are too many white people here. You are the only PoC to be found within the next 3 streets. For the 3 blocks after that, the only other PoC are a couple of other college students, and those who spend their lives taking care of white folks for minimum wage."
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(no subject) [Mar. 14th, 2009|10:03 pm]
Just because the inclusion of a PoC within a book, tv show, movie, etc. was something that hadn't been done, or had rarely been done before, doesn't mean the text or characterization of those PoC within the first waves of popular media isn't problematic, even when looking back over decades or centuries. Yes, it is something to be happy about, the fact that it was evidence that times were changing and people were trying. No, PoC today are not trying to dismiss the authors who wrote them, the actors who played them (many of the early PoC in media were our heroes growing up!), or the people who were in fact taking a massive chance at that point in time, whether with their career, their reputation, even in some cases their safety (it's not as if even now violent white supremacists, who hate "race-traitors" almost as much as PoC, are gone; I speak from personal experience as a PoC who has wonderful, supportive friends who are white who will stand up for or just plain with me against anything, because I'm their friend, and some shit's just plain old wrong no matter who it's being done to). However, that doesn't mean that it was enough, or that we had equality, or that racism no longer exists. We deserve better than a few one-dimensional characters; we deserve many fully-formed, well-rounded, endlessly skilled and talented and flawed human beings who are intelligent and silly and funny and do stupid things sometimes. We deserve to be represented in the media that utilizes our cultures as backdrops and inspiration, alongside other PoC and white actors and musicians, as more than a background character that doesn't get any lines. We deserve to get the girl, and to have awesome, fun, pleasurable, sometimes faily sex with her. We deserve to get the boy, and to have awesome, fun, pleasurable, sometimes faily sex with him. We deserve to have our histories fully represented, not white-washed; as complex and political, showing our villains and our heroes and our people who just plain struggle to make lives for themselves, to be content and healthy and, hopefully, happy.

On a completely different note, a part of me wants to completely recast Star Wars IV-VI, with Greta as the Leia character and Travis as the Han character.
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(no subject) [Mar. 7th, 2009|01:35 pm]
Why exactly is it that people are surprised by the idea that Rihanna might be back together with Chris Brown? You’ve probably not been a victim of abuse, but have you never actually met other people who've been victims of domestic abuse? This is normal! It is the result of what is essentially brainwashing by the abuser; the perpetrator harms the victim in whichever special way he/she enjoys utilizing to enforce his/her power over the victim, and later performs regret and love, promises that things will be better, that it won't happen again. But it does happen again, and again, and again, and each time it becomes easier and easier for the abuser to physically, mentally, and emotionally batter their victim, as they both become more used to their roles within the scene. And as time goes on each becomes more and more convinced that it is really the victim's fault when the abuser snaps, starts yelling, throwing things at the victim, beating, burning, breaking bones, locking them in a small enclosed space for three days with no food or water, raping them, threatening to harm the kids (or even the pets!), and sometimes even killing them.

The victim stays with the abuser because the good times are so good, even though the good times are getting fewer and fewer, and the bad times come around more and more often. She/He stays because the abuser actually loves the victim, really! I promise! It will never happen again! There are educated, adult women who stay with their abusers for decades because the pull the abuser has over them is so strong, some even staying until their abuser finally kills them.

Apparently she was able to hit back, and when she did the battering escalated. This is not rare. It is, in some cases, calculated by the abuser, giving him/her the excuse to hit back harder, faster, in more delicate areas of the body. It teaches the victim not to fight back, because fighting back results in greater pain.

Chris Brown chose to utilize his greater physical strength to hurt one of the last people he should ever have raised a hand to, a person who should have been able to trust him implicitly. Your anger shouldn't be with her for "being a bad role model," or for "putting herself in more danger," it should lie with the dude that decided it was okay to put his hands on her in anger instead of stopping the car and walking away until he had enough control to talk to her about their shit. Period. End of story. Anything else is just another warped, disgusting, misogynist way of continuing to blame the victim while pretending at a feminist stance. It is a way of denying the fact that we teach our sons that violence is okay, and our daughters that their needs, wants, and even safety are to always come in second to a guy’s. Funny how, after the police report came out, so few famous people who know the couple condemned what Chris Brown did. Didn’t Usher say something, and then decide to backtrack? Allegedly, Diddy let Rihanna and Chris use one of his houses to meet and talk. And there were people saying that there are two sides to every story, and they always thought Chris was a nice guy. Newsflash: Nice guys, actual, real, trustworthy nice guys, don’t batter their partners.

Yes, she is technically an adult. Yes, she seems to have a lot of people who love her and support her and want the best for her. Yes, she has a great career, money, access to legal and psychiatric help, and fame, which is more than a lot of other abuse victims have. No, that doesn’t make any of the abuse she’s experienced, whether it happened before Chris Brown was arrested or after, her fault. She didn’t allow it to happen. She’s a 21 year old young woman who is already caught within the cycle of abuse, not someone firing on all cylinders who has the objectivity or agency required to pull herself out of it by herself.

On my “cred” to speak on this: I am a female-bodied person of color, only a couple years older than Rihanna, who was abused for many, many years. Yes, my experience was different; my abuse didn’t come from an SO; it came from an authority figure with whom there was no sexual component, either consensual or forced. But like many other victims of abuse, it took me years to realize I was even being abused. I thought it was normal. I thought that, when it happened, I had done something to deserve it, even though I couldn’t figure out what it was I’d done. I understand how difficult dealing with my own abuse was, and can infer that it has different dynamics, and can be even more difficult to cope with in certain ways when you bring in romantic ties and physical intimacy.
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(no subject) [Feb. 18th, 2009|04:40 pm]
I love that Nate will take Andrew's laptop from me and spew some bile at some nasty, hateful asshat trying to get the last hateful word in on an anonymeme.
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(no subject) [Aug. 9th, 2006|09:46 am]
The awesomeloveliness that is thebratqueen posted a link to stoney321's journal. Here

There's been an incident involving a bigoted, anti-gay businessman mass-emailing his client list with a whiny letter regarding both an episode of Cold Case and Without A Trace being OMG!Toogay-friendly! Please read Stoney's post, and the responses to it. Then, if it gets your dander up, please email the idiot who's trying to sabotage his own business (as gay men are more statistically likely to hold jobs and/or enjoy hobbies that require nurturing than straight men are) and politely tell him what an idiot he is. Then please email CBS and give them support.

That episode of Cold Case wasn't slashy enough, in my opinion; the extent of it was the fact that the 2nd victim was a rentboy, there was a little bit of sexual tension with his buddy, and at the end his friend put his hand on the victim's shoulder. I was holding my desperate screams for boyhugs and boykissy in, as it was late. Seriously, some of the denser people watching it would have probably thought they were just reallyclosefriends. And the Without A Trace? Consisted of some longing looks, lots of "in love but OMG it's unrequited! Or is it?!" and a hug and a bit of smooshing.
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(no subject) [Aug. 15th, 2005|01:43 pm]
Post anything that you want in comments, and post it anonymously. A story, a secret, a lyric, a confession, a fear, a love - anything! Include what you think of me...if you want.

Be sure to post anonymously and honestly. Post twice if you'd like. Then put this in your blog or LJ. REMEMBER: ANONYMOUS!!!
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(no subject) [Apr. 14th, 2004|06:04 pm]
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Post anything that you want, and post it anonymously. Anything. A story, a secret, a confession, a fear, a love -- anything. Be sure to post anonymously and honestly. Post twice if you'd like. Then, put this in your LJ to see what your friends (and perhaps others who you don't even realise read your LJ) have to say
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